We’ve all heard the age-old adage, “you have to love yourself before someone can love you.” While it’s easy to beat yourself up for your shortcomings, learn to recognize and celebrate your talents and unique qualities – when you develop a strong sense of self-confidence, you will inspire admiration from others as well.
Drop the baggage
Everyone has a past with some rough spots and unfortunate episodes. How do you expect to enter a healthy relationship if your are bringing your scars and fears form the past into it? You must believe that the ways in which you were hurt in the past will not happen again, if only because you are wiser now – and let yourself open up and enjoy a new relationship and a new adventure.
Think about the people you know who have what you consider a good relationship. What do they do? How do they think? How do they interact with their partner? Try and recognize these behaviors and imitate them in order to achieve similar goals.
Like the nice guys
We have a tendency to reject people who genuinely like us and treat us well. Fight that tendency, for god’s sake.
Don’t waste your time chasing and pining after somebody who is “too cool,” a bad boy, or unavailable – they are not worth the time and effort. Someone who is genuinely interested in you will be available.